Failed to connect to instance *endgame

So ever since yesterday the game has basically become unplayable. 90% of the time I try to travel or load an area I get booted to the dashboard and receive a “failed to connect to instance” error. This can be loading game from menu, traveling to a map, entering an abyss, leaving a map, traveling or leaving well of souls etc…. or anything. It’s anytime I load an area. I’m spending literally more time restarting the game than I am playing. I’m lvl 95, not a newb. This just started happening yesterday.

-I’ve manually reset the server. Tried multiple locations as well as auto

-I’ve restarted (hard) my console many times

-I’ve restarted (hard) my router many times

-I’ve tried the option in menu to spawn in town - doesn’t matter

Nothing works…

Even something as simple as leaving a map when it’s completed takes me 5+ attempts and reloads.

I went from 1 map per 2 minutes to 1 map per 20 minutes bc I have to reload game 20x per map

I don’t know what else to do but I’m tired of getting booted to the menu 8x just to enter a map.

Please please!!!! someone suggest a fix. Emphasis on this being XBOX!!!