a difference of perspective

i play this game on hardcore and im a new poe player, and generally the experiance has been great for me. ive lost a few characters, but every time i die i get significantly further, currently my 3rd character is clearing t16 maps with a build i came up with myself, and im starting to see a few problems.

in softcore you can reach lategame with a terrible build, then complain about dying in t1 maps. in hardcore the builds seem to be much more effective, because they are build with the assumption that if you die, you are done. if you need to die 10 times to kill a boss then your build is bad, your items are bad, or you are very underleveled.
i understand that people are frustrated when they play a character for hundreds of hours before they realize its shit, but its the reality of life, dont blame the game.