Weird "disconnecting" issue in poe1 (HELP PLS HAPPENING ON POE2 AS WELL)

Whenever I travel into a new area either through a door or via a waypoint my game seems to disconnect/freeze, I cannot move my character but I can still use all of the menus and buttons. This happens way too frequently almost every other time I travel to a new area, meaning I cannot complete the Labyrinth.

The way I know I have disconnected is that I cannot move my character, or sometimes I can move my character but my minions are frozen in place and I cant interact with anything. There have been some occasions where on my screen I am frozen but my friends still me moving when I try to move.

Returning to character select does not work so I have to go back to log in screen, and then load back into the game but even so the initial load in I can get stuck and sometimes it takes up to 5 tries even with restarting the game.

I have tried many fixes but cannot find a solution.

edit: I know what is happening now. From my point of view the game is frozen and I have disconnected with my ping being skyrocketed into the thousands. But in some cases I can move around but still seemingly not being able to interact with anything. BUT with my friend in the same instance he can see me moving around fine and doing attacks etc. So for some reason on my screen I have disconnected but the others I am still in the game